What is the
definition of sex to teens? Has it become very casual that it’s included in the
‘getting
to know each other ’ stage of a relationship? Are they using
protection? Does the person they are having sex with matter? At what age do
they start having sex? Shocking revelations were made by the I-QRU, guys are
out there Gerring it in, Hammering,
Banging,Chopping, Romping, Smashing, and worse still kuna wale
wana Rombosa na Kunyanduana without a thought about STD’s and unwanted
pregnancies.This is because contraceptive are the last thing they think about
during this ‘funtimes’.
VIRGINITY
Gone are the days when one would be caught dead saying that
they have lost their virginity before they got married. A lady would be honored
for getting married as a virgin and her wearing that sparkling white dress was
very relevant.
Well, should we say that these days a lady might as well get
married in a purple dress? Virginity is now seen as a burden to teens. Why
would you still be a virgin at the ‘old age’ of 14? Sex is explored by teens at
this tender age and has slowly become a right of passage into most of the
popular crews in school. For the guys, a dude gets more bragging rights if he
has tapped more than one chic. He is seen as the Lord of the game and
ironically he also becomes popular with the ladies. This is because the other chilles are now very curious to know
what exactly he does to have managed to ‘Score’the rest. Therefore, more fall into his smash list and
his cool points increase.
For the ladies, they will only tell their close friends whom
they lost it to, when and how it was. A lady would not reveal how many peeps
she has been smashed by as this will make them get labeled as too generous.
HOW DO THEY VIEW SEX?
The Score Sheet
How many peeps have you tapped? Because then you earn yourself more cool
points and bragging rights as the king or queen of the game. This unfortunately is very important to teens,
they value their cool points and would do anything to make sure they are on top
of this ‘score sheet’. The pressure to be with the popular crowd forces one to
indulge in these un-informed practices. They get the worst advice from friends
as of course one would not go to their parents on how to increase their cool
points through under age sex. Yes, these teens know very well that what they
are getting into is not meant for them, well at least at their age but hey, who
wants to be unpopular in their teen years. So Y.O.L.O they say and they become
‘professionals’ at their tender age. One of the teens we spoke to, revealed to
us that by the time they were in 304, almost half the class had lost their
virginity and 50% of them had already started while in 204.
PROTECTION
Teens are more afraid of getting pregnant than getting an
STD. They argue that one can live with the STD or get treated and go back to
their normal life. With pregnancy, both
parties are responsible and it’s a lifetime job taking care of the child. One
will have a lot of responsibility; his and her lives are practically over.
There will be no more hanging out with your peeps and random plot; one has to
think about the child first. They say with an STD, one can still go out, hang
out with guys and still be in school. Better still, one can go to hospital and get
it taken care of. They are therefore abusing the morning after pill forgetting
about its side effects.
They further say that it is very difficult for them to go
and buy condoms as they are usually put at a very open place and thus they are
shy to get them. Some of them have no idea of how to use them, and since they
do not want to look lame in front of their partners, they will not ask and end
up having sex without protection with the hope of using morning after pill to
prevent the unwanted pregnancy.
PARTNERS
Well of course it is a bit special if you have sexual
relations with your boy friend and girl friend, but this is not a necessity to
teens. A partner to them is a guy or chille
who wants some just as much as you want it. ‘No strings attached ‘, ‘Friends
with Benefits’ and ‘Tap Buddy’ are some of the names they call their partners.
This is the guy or chille you always call whenever you want some; you do not
have to have anything in common or even like each other. Your relationship is
based on sex only.
They do not really care about each other, apart from the
time they are meeting and where. In case where the chic gets pregnant, the guy
has nothing to do with it coz honestly he is not sure whether he was her only
tap buddy. So she is left to deal with it alone and that of course marks the
end of the sex relations and the guy is off to the next one.
